Teen Relationship/Dating Violence-A Growing Problem
In this article we will take a look at one of the fastest-growing problems in society today-teen dating violence. We will discuss the scope of the problem, signs of abusive relationships, in particular dating abuse, and suggest some ways to protect yourself.
To give you an idea of the scope of the problem, in 2011 the CDC found 9.4% of high school students “reported being hit, slapped or physically hurt on purpose by their boyfriend or girlfriend in the 12 months prior to the survey.” A 2010 CDC survey found that one in five women between the ages of 11 and 17 experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner.
Part of the problem, in our opinion, is that children, and that’s what they are, children, do not know what a healthy relationship is at that age. They learn from media, their parents and peers. Unfortunately, television, music, video games and the Internet seem to perpetuate the idea that dating violence is okay.
Furthermore, like domestic abuse, we contend that teen dating violence and dating abuse is a learned trait passed down from generation to generation. When sons see their fathers harming and mistreating their mothers with no consequence, they figure it is okay. Hopefully those abusive relationships will end, but until they do, domestic abuse, teenage violence and dating abuse will continue to plague teenagers.
Young teenage girls are swept off their feet by someone who is paying a lot of attention to them. They want to please and make the relationship work so they figure getting serious fast is one way to do it. They may not recognize that as a major warning sign along with extreme jealousy and controlling, coercive behavior.
We also feel that a key component that leads to dating abuse and teen dating violence is a complete lack of respect, and not just on the part of the young man, but also the young woman not respecting herself. When the boundaries are set so low, abusive relationships are bound to flourish.
Another factor is that teens are afraid to verbalize the problem with their friends for fear of ridicule.
Teenage girls along with their mothers need to learn how to defend themselves when they’re in abusive relationships. When these young girls grow up, unless things change, close to 30% of adult relationships have a domestic abuse component. A self-defense class and a self-defense product will go a long way to protecting you throughout your life.
This self-defense training DVD called Women’s Combat is one of the few targeted towards women and is perfect for young women.
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